the sensitive, the considerate and the plucky

“I believe in aristocracy, though — if that is the right word, and if a democrat may use it. Not an aristocracy of power, based upon rank and influence, but an aristocracy of the sensitive, the considerate and the plucky. Its members are to be found in all nations and classes, and all through the […]

dénouement: the lonely sea

The flyer reads “Celebration of life”. The young caseworker who knew Werner’s father briefly at the end of his life is in charge of this event. On the phone beforehand, she tells me she has only worked here for a short time, and before this, she says, she worked with teenagers, so this is new […]

choosing to do wrong, and failing to do good…

Most of us have a youthful time in our lives that we look back upon fondly, even if it was fleeting or fraught. This period in our life is often characterized by experimentation, falling in love, creativity, or travel, but mostly by a sense of unbridled freedom and a feeling of endless possibility. This time […]

Don’t forget to enjoy yourself while you’re waiting for the light!

It is a hard time of year.  The darkness seems to gather momentum as the solstice looms.  These shorter, colder days amplify challenges for those who are suffering – the mentally ill, the homeless, the unemployed, the grieving, the addicted, the poor, the recovering – in other words, all of us in some way or another. […]

A variation on The Golden Rule: “Do unto yourself as you would have yourself do unto others”

I’ve had a lot of “duh!” moments throughout my life, where suddenly, the veil is lifted, and a seemingly simple truth I’ve heard many times is revealed to me like never before. Sometimes it’s a big concept, and sometimes it’s just something small my mother told me years ago that I could’ve heeded and spared myself some trouble.  While it’s always gratifying to have […]

A difficult story to tell…

Recently I participated in a brief exchange on Facebook on the topic of sexual assault.  The person who initiated the discussion was upset by the comments following an article at Jezebel.com written by a woman who had been sexually assaulted on the street.  Apparently the nature of the offending comments were of the “I would’ve broken his hand!” variety.  My friend’s premise in […]

You can leave, but you have to take yourself with you.

When my first-born son was in fifth grade, he began having major issues with the idea of going to school every day. He made it through that school year which was not coincidentally a time of challenge for our family. His sixth grade year got off to a rocky start and continued along that trajectory for the duration of the school year, and he begged his father […]

In tonight’s debate, Mitt Romney said he “believes in God”. What does THAT mean?

A long time ago, before I had much personal exposure to Alcoholics Anonymous or the culture of recovery, I had a wonderful yoga teacher who had apparently done some 12-step work at some point in his own getting-sober project.  He didn’t talk about it much, but in retrospect I can see its influence all over […]

It’s my bloggy and I’ll write about my period if I want to! or “Don’t be a Sharer-Hater”

Some people seem to have a deep and abiding urge to share their innermost thoughts and feelings.  I am one of those people.  While I recognize this can be one of my most precious personality traits, I am also aware that it is a tendency that has the potential to cause hurt.  Now that I am a grown up, mature 46-year-old lady, I can look back […]

less shame and more honesty: my d-i-v-o-r-c-e

I just read a post on a blog I follow, elroyjones.  At the end of this brief but insightful post, which was on the subject of Vanessa Williams and her Penthouse scandal, the author stated “The world could use a little more honesty and a lot less shame.”  In honor of this sentiment, I would like to briefly discuss […]