dénouement: the lonely sea

The flyer reads “Celebration of life”. The young caseworker who knew Werner’s father briefly at the end of his life is in charge of this event. On the phone beforehand, she tells me she has only worked here for a short time, and before this, she says, she worked with teenagers, so this is new […]

choosing to do wrong, and failing to do good…

Most of us have a youthful time in our lives that we look back upon fondly, even if it was fleeting or fraught. This period in our life is often characterized by experimentation, falling in love, creativity, or travel, but mostly by a sense of unbridled freedom and a feeling of endless possibility. This time […]

A variation on The Golden Rule: “Do unto yourself as you would have yourself do unto others”

I’ve had a lot of “duh!” moments throughout my life, where suddenly, the veil is lifted, and a seemingly simple truth I’ve heard many times is revealed to me like never before. Sometimes it’s a big concept, and sometimes it’s just something small my mother told me years ago that I could’ve heeded and spared myself some trouble.  While it’s always gratifying to have […]

A difficult story to tell…

Recently I participated in a brief exchange on Facebook on the topic of sexual assault.  The person who initiated the discussion was upset by the comments following an article at Jezebel.com written by a woman who had been sexually assaulted on the street.  Apparently the nature of the offending comments were of the “I would’ve broken his hand!” variety.  My friend’s premise in […]

You can leave, but you have to take yourself with you.

When my first-born son was in fifth grade, he began having major issues with the idea of going to school every day. He made it through that school year which was not coincidentally a time of challenge for our family. His sixth grade year got off to a rocky start and continued along that trajectory for the duration of the school year, and he begged his father […]

It’s my bloggy and I’ll write about my period if I want to! or “Don’t be a Sharer-Hater”

Some people seem to have a deep and abiding urge to share their innermost thoughts and feelings.  I am one of those people.  While I recognize this can be one of my most precious personality traits, I am also aware that it is a tendency that has the potential to cause hurt.  Now that I am a grown up, mature 46-year-old lady, I can look back […]

a Holy Week meditation on addiction

Condemned to death. Seeking a path away from pain with booze, Xanax, crystal, oxy, heroin.  Street drugs, prescriptions…like the mythical lotus eaters, the addicts feast until they forget their homelands.  They forget who they are.  Addiction is a scourging, it comes with a crown of thorns and a crucifixion. At first, seeking relief from pain: the […]

love is a verb…

My boyfriend started a new job two weeks ago.  Since we’ve been together, he’s been “retired”.  He took a 3 year break from a stressful career, got divorced and re-met me (we knew each other when we were just college kids).   He’s been spending his free time chilling out with his dog and with me and my children, preparing himself […]

The voice of Doom doesn’t stand a chance with me.

People are always throwing around statements like “If you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be good for anyone else…!”. and “You can’t change anyone else, you can only change yourself…!”  While I find this sort of preachiness to be rather grating, tiresome and trite overall, I also believe this advice to be completely spot on, but these […]